Welcome to the Brighter Side!

November 21, 2018
Welcome to the Brighter Side!

You’ve landed on a different kind of blog about the changes that so many of us go through in our relationships. Here’s what we’re all about.

This is a blog that supports and uplifts people who find themselves facing the possibility of a breakdown in their long-term relationship, whether or not they are, or have been, legally married.

We’re here to support you through whatever changes to your life and family structure may be underway, even if you’re not sure how things are going to unfold

Brighter Side guides readers through the often heartwrenching and discombobulating processes of separation and divorce, as well as the complicated terrain of recoupling and blending families.

Uplifting, inspiring and validating, we approach relationship changes and family transitions with a positive and hopeful outlook. We reject the idea that a divorce has to be a great tragedy, for instance, and encourage readers who find themselves going through one to see the potential for a happier future on the other side of this tricky time.

When life is turned upside down, it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking you’ve gotten off the happiness track. We want you to know that your world is expanding, not contracting.

Yes, there’s likely to be a challenging transition period as you and any children you may have adjust to new circumstances. But overall these changes can open the door to better relationships down the road, as well as to periods of meaningful personal growth and fulfillment.

Don’t get us wrong, though. We’re by no means anti-marriage. We’d love it if you were to find your way to a happy and content place within your current relationship. All long-term relationships encounter difficult periods; it can be hard to sort out which are just bad patches and which signal that you’re no longer right for one another.

But if it happens you are facing the end of your long-term relationship, we want to encourage you to be kind to yourself about this whole thing.

As we touch on in our post ‘Who will I be if I’m no longer with my partner?’ marriage is at least 4,000 years old and pair bonding likely goes back to the Stone Age. You’re certainly not the first person in all those millennia of marital history to encounter problems and changing circumstances, and you won’t be the last.

There’s every reason to believe that there are better times ahead.

If you’ve got kids in the mix, we want to make sure you understand that there’s a lot of myth and exaggeration around the effects of divorce on kids. Yes, it needs to be handled with sensitivity and care, but the best evidence shows that children do just fine after a period of adjustment. In fact, going through family changes can help cultivate the resilience that each of us needs as we make our way in the world.

You’ll find that the language we use challenges the assumption that separation and divorce equals “broken families.” Negative language like that only entrenches stereotypes and holds us back. Instead, we’ll be sharing uplifting messages and actionable advice on moving forward in a positive way.

We look forward to being with you on the road ahead.